Dear Prudence

I don’t want to give up.

Advice by

Enter your email to receive alerts for this author.

Sign in or create an account to better manage your email preferences.

Unsubscribe from email alerts

Are you sure you want to unsubscribe from email alerts for Jenée Desmond-Harris ?

Oct 26, 2026 6:00 AM

Photo illustration by Slate. Photo by Laures /Getty Images Plus.

Sign up for the Slatest to get the most insightful analysis, criticism, and advice out there, delivered to your inbox daily.

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice column. Submit questions here .

Dear Prudence,

My wife and I split up a few months ago. We co-parent well and get along great, to the point where we have been told it’s bizarre. We were together for almost 20 years. We got together when we were very young. About six months ago, she told me she wasn’t happy, didn’t feel that spark for me anymore, and wanted to explore what healthy adult dating looked like.…