For Boomers, The Story of Us is a bad (oops) Bruce Willis and Michelle Pfeiffer movie, and for Millennials, it’s a whiny (double oops) Taylor Swift song. But for couples therapists, the “Story of Us” is a bed of relationship tea leaves.

Simply put, the Story of Us refers to the narrative that couples tell about their relationship, from how they got together and fell in love to all the plot twists between then and now, certified Gottman couples therapist Alysha Roll , MSW, LCSW, tells Cosmopolitan . Amongst other things, “it’s where and how you met, what stood out about each other and drew you together, and how you decided to make a commitment and become a family,” she says.…