Care and Feeding

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Dear Care and Feeding,

My husband, “Samuel,” and I have 2.5-year-old twin boys, and my mother-in-law, “Diana,” is asking us to bring them over to her house for Thanksgiving and stay for the weekend. My in-laws live four hours away, and I don’t want to attempt to drive with two toddlers who have trouble sitting still during one of the busiest travel periods of the year. Not to mention, Diana’s home isn’t particularly kid-friendly. Samuel is convinced it won’t be that big a deal and will be “an adventure” for the boys.…