How to Do It

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Dear How to Do It,

My friend group and I have a big group chat; we’re around 20 or so people. Lately, after someone in the group had an interaction with someone in a furry costume in real life, furries have become a bit of the butt of the joke in said group. They crack jokes about furries and their costumes all the time, in a way that, while I know they mean no harm, is actively showing their distaste for people who sexually engage with the furry world.…