When you think of infidelity, your mind likely goes to emotional or sexual cheating . But in a relationship, betrayal can look like a variety of things—and some of them don’t even involve another person. Sometimes, the secrets you keep from your partner are all about money.

“Financial infidelity is when someone intentionally keeps money or financially related information from a partner,” financial therapist and educator Dr. Erika Rasure tells Cosmopolitan . “This usually happens because they think a partner would be hurt or upset if they knew about the purchase or financial decision.” This might look like having a secret credit card or debt that your partner knows nothing about. But it can also be smaller things like being dishonest about the price of a purchase, always rounding down, hiding receipts and shopping bags. Sometimes, people will even keep a separate account without telling their partner and give money to family members without them knowing.…