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FamilyRelationshipsMental HealthPsychologyCulture When Chaos Feels Like Home: Why Some People Struggle With Peace

Maia Niguel Hoskin, Ph.D.

8 min read9 hours ago

You finally meet someone who is emotionally available. They communicate, they’re consistent, and they don’t disappear for three days and then reappear acting like they were on a humanitarian mission in a remote village without cell service. They do what they say they’ll do.

And somehow? You’re bored. But that person who keeps you guessing? The one who leaves you emotionally exhausted, questioning where you stand, and periodically crying in your car? Now that’s chemistry.

Or at least that’s what you’ve convinced yourself. What happens when you’ve become so accustomed to chaos that peace actually makes you uncomfortable?…