How to Do It

My Husband and I Have a Sexy New Lover. Our Friend Thinks It’s “Creepy.”

He’s on a crusade against us.

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Dear How to Do It,

My husband and I are both 45 years old. We’ve been married for 10 years. And we have recently met a new friend, “Owen.” Owen is significantly younger at 26 years old. But we’ve been getting to know him and we’re prepared to bring it up and ask him into our relationship. We both have feelings for him, the sex between the three of us is amazing, and we both enjoy one-on-one time with him as well. He’s matured, educated, and has a good job. He has his own apartment and a dog that we love.…