How to Do It

It’s part of a bigger pattern.

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How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous!

Dear How to Do It,

At my best friend’s wedding, her brother-in-law sexually harassed me when I was trapped in a car with him. I could tell you a long story with the exact number of drinks I had and precisely what he said, but it’s not as important as knowing that I didn’t want it and he persisted after I demurred multiple times. I confronted him the next morning and have made peace with his actions and my response. The problem is my best friend.

This is a woman I’ve been close with for four decades, and she completely does not believe me. She’s told me I was too drunk to remember, that I shouldn’t have told her, and that I probably misinterpreted what he meant. I’ve been struggling for a year over this, thinking I must’ve never really known my friend to not have seen that reaction coming.…