If your sex life feels about as inspired as white rice and chicken (hey, no hate to the bodybuilding community), you’ve come to the right place.

A bout of boring sex is a very normal experience for people in long-term relationships, Missouri-based, ASSECT-certified sex therapist De-Andrea Blaylock-Solar, LCSW, CST, owner of Sankofa Sex Therapy , tells Cosmopolitan .

For some, it's the closeness that cockblocks eroticism. “Desire requires mystery and adventure. While security, safety, and predictability can sustain relationships, they don't necessarily foster the excitement that helps desire bloom,” she says.

For others, a timeline marked by internet slop, robot takeovers, genocide, and extreme weather emergencies squashes any libidinal pull toward sex—and the creative chutzpah required to keep it exciting.…