If you feel exhausted in your relationship , you might be unknowingly carrying the invisible load for both you and your partner. This common, one-sided dynamic in relationships can lead to resentment, disconnection, and burnout.

“The invisible load in relationships is all the physical and emotional effort that goes into maintaining the relationship, the family (if you have children), and the household needs,” says Debra Feinberg, LCSW, Founder and Couples Therapist at Maplewood Counseling . “Imagine keeping track of and up with everything that needs to be done, and feeling your partner is clueless about all of the things you do.”

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Does this sound like you? Here are seven signs you’re carrying the invisible load in your relationship.

1. You Do All the Planning

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