If you’ve ever heard the saying “needle in a haystack,” you likely know just how difficult it is to find said needle in today’s dating haystack. That’s why Dr. Jennie Young coined the Burned Haystack Dating Method, which helps daters weed out the wrong partners to get to their matches.

Her book, Burn the Haystack , advises women to write off anyone who doesn’t align with them, which goes against the advice women usually get: “Just give him a chance!”

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Now, as someone who spent her 20s sorting through her own stack of hay, this concept certainly intrigues me. In fact, I wish I were equipped with this insight back then.…