Whether it’s your first or thousandth time with your partner, let’s say you’re in a mood. Marvin Gaye’s “Let’s Get it On” might as well be playing on a loudspeaker in your head, because you’re ready to pounce. You want to make a move, but for whatever reason, you’re nervous to. And honestly, so fair.

We get it. Sometimes, being the initiator is hard. It’s vulnerable for a multitude of reasons, and no one wants to be rejected, whether it’s a longtime partner or a sticky situationship. And of course, you always want to respect what mood your partner is in, too.

So, how can you make the first move with confidence, you ask? Well, lucky for you we went ahead and reached out to sex experts to get their thoughts, and they covered everything from how to read your partner’s arousal roadmap to accepting rejection.

Become fluent in body language (but don’t solely rely on it)

There’s something super hot about knowing how to talk to your partner without saying a word.…