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I moved to my partner's home country, and I feel like I carry most of the weight of that decision. Does it ever get better? Am I overthinking this or missing something?

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I (30F, USA) moved to Southern Europe country for my partner (40M) two years ago. In the beginning, I felt lots of the isolation as a foreign spouse in my partner's home country. But I pulled myself through - I made a huge professional pivot and found a job here with a good salary (which required temporarily living in a separate city for 6 months and me traveling to see my partner on the other side of the country every week until I negotiated a remote contract), I enrolled myself in 10 hours a week of language classes and improved to C1 level, and I started to make friends and find hobbies and activities. I identified friends of his that I like and established my own relationships with them, and I made an effort to turn his family into mine, even visiting them when he can't. All of this has made me feel better, more established and independent here and more at peace with and in control of my life. Now, we've bought a house and are thinking about starting a family.…

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