Dear Prudence

This is not the holiday vibe I’m after.

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Nov 05, 2026 12:29 PM

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Dear Prudence,

Thanksgiving is about a month away, and I am not looking forward to it. This year is my and my husband’s turn to host, and special occasions for my in-laws are always affairs that involve significant amounts of alcohol. They even bring their own in case it’s not provided by their host (they offer to share, but it’s obvious who it’s really for).…