Dear Prudence

When I decided to help out with his pigsty, I certainly didn’t expect this!

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Oct 31, 2026 8:00 AM

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Dear Prudence,

I love my boyfriend, but his apartment is a pig sty. I try not to hold it against him because he works long hours at a physically demanding job and switches back and forth between day and night shifts every few weeks.…