Why Listening to Yourself Makes Others Uncomfortable

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Have you ever said “no” and suddenly you became the bad guy?

That’s usually when the label appears: selfish. Many people mistake listening to themselves for a form of selfishness. As if prioritizing your own needs means you don’t care. Or worse, that you’re hurting others. Or you get written off as rigid, difficult, or inconsiderate.

This misunderstanding often runs deep because most of us were raised with the belief that being “good” means erasing yourself for others.

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