Dondré Whitfield is opening up about one of the most uncomfortable conversations in modern relationships: what happens after a man cheats. During a recent appearance on the Lovers by Shan podcast, the actor and author argued that while infidelity rightly causes pain, the emotional fallout experienced by the person who cheats is rarely discussed. "No one wants to hear about our devastation when we cheat because you caused devastation," Whitfield said. "But it doesn't mean that you aren't devastated." The Queen Sugar star traced that belief back to his own life, describing infidelity not as a lack of morals but as a lack of emotional tools. "We cheat when we don't have answers," Whitfield said. "Because you don't know how to succeed any other way. I get emotional because I think about my young self not having the answers." Whitfield has spent much of the past decade speaking publicly about manhood, relationships, and fatherhood through his book Male vs. Man .…