Care and Feeding

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Dear Care and Feeding,

Earlier this year, my husband and I had a beautiful baby girl named Marie. When I first found out I was pregnant, we started searching for daycares. Ultimately, we decided to choose between two of them.

One was a traditional daycare center, with lots of kids and multiple staff members. The other was an in-home daycare, run by a very nice (and experienced) lady.…