Care and Feeding

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Our advice columnists have heard it all over the years—so today we’re diving into the archives of Care and Feeding to share classic parenting letters with our readers. Have a question for Care and Feeding? Submit it here .

Dear Care and Feeding,

My ex-husband, “John,” and I had three kids together. We were married for 15 years before our divorce three years ago. Our marriage started out OK, but as it went on John became more and more controlling and misogynistic. He got jealous if I even just mentioned the name of a man he didn’t know. I had been considering divorcing him for a while, but I was always afraid of how he would react if I brought it up with him. So I was very surprised when he told me he wanted a divorce. It turns out he had met a very attractive younger co-worker and wanted to date her. We divorced, and he dated her for about a year.…