How to Do It

Will she love it or hate it?

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Dear How to Do It,

My wife loves her dildo. Sometimes we use it together; sometimes she uses it herself during solo time—I know because she tells me. We have a good sex life, and I like to think we’re pretty good at talking about what we both like and our fantasies. Lately, I’ve been thinking about something that I almost feel bashful about admitting.

I’ve discovered the world of making a mold of your penis. And I’ve become really into the idea of getting one done that she can use both when we’re together and when she’s alone. It’s a turn-on for some reason—probably because I’ll still be the one “pleasuring her” even when she’s using a toy.…