Dear Prudence

Prudie chats with Lizzie O’Leary, host of What Next: TBD, about a friend who can’t take it anymore.

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Dear Prudence,

My best friend needs to leave her husband. He’s not abusive, but they don’t communicate, they don’t have sex, and she’s miserable all the time. She’s been married 10 years, and it’s been the same story the entire time. She wants to leave but she’s scared. She goes back and forth all the time on: Maybe he’ll change. Maybe she needs to work harder to change him. Maybe she needs to adjust her attitude and then she will be happy with him.…