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This is breaking my niece’s heart.

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Oct 21, 2026 6:00 AM

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Dear Prudence,

My brother’s daughter is my only niece. She is also my goddaughter. She lost her mom in college, so we have become very, very close. She is the daughter that I never had.

Her dad got remarried to “Analise,” who has two adult daughters herself. I’ve met them once, at the wedding.…