My boyfriend (29M) and I (26F) were together for about a year and a half. We were planning to get engaged, he’d bought a ring, and we’d talked extensively about marriage and children.

I struggled with severe anxiety, PMDD, and what I’m now learning may be relationship OCD. I repeatedly questioned his intentions and struggled to trust him, even though I loved him deeply. We had a few particularly difficult conflicts, and I know some of my behavior hurt him.

We started couples therapy, but I eventually canceled our planned engagement trip amid financial concerns and mounting relationship stress. He became increasingly distant, despite telling me he wanted to reconcile. Then he broke up with me over the phone, just as I was beginning treatment. He said he’d been unhappy and lacking in confidence for a few months now in our relationship, and with the canceled trip and work stress, he just couldn’t handle it anymore.

I’m devastated. I physically feel sick with grief.…