In September 2023 I’d been divorced for about a year. At 59 I thought to myself, “surely there’s got to be a little bit more love that I could give in my life”. But I was also keenly aware that not many people find romance organically these days.

I gave Bumble a go, had some pretty average dates and thought it wasn’t for me, but I decided to give it one last shot. It was Kev’s smile and his eyes that caught my attention. His profile said travel was really important to him, which gave me a bit of a laugh because I have huge anxiety issues around holidaying of any sort. We exchanged a few texts and decided to arrange a date. It was nothing fancy, just a few drinks at a bar in a bayside suburb of Melbourne.

It was all very easy between us, so about half an hour in, not wanting to waste our time, I thought I should make a few disclosures. First I told him that as a divorcee twice over, I obviously wasn’t very good at relationships. He surprised me by saying we were on par there.…