Hi personal finance gurus!

I recently settled my divorce and am freaking out that I made the wrong choices in terms of what I gave up (I am the higher income earner and live in a community property state). I negotiated the divorce on my own for a myriad of reasons (though we worked with a mediator who kept us within legal bounds, and both of us ran the final settlement past a lawyer for review), but ultimately leaned toward giving him more cash upfront to preserve my 401K. Ultimately, I gave up 57% of my brokerage account, $5,000 of my 401K, and $8,000 of my half of our future home equity when we sell our house next spring. Ultimately, he got about $13,000 over the true 50/50 split of assets due to my long-term income earning potential over his.

At the end of the day, I'm left with the below.…