I’m a senior level Eng in faang and have worked for 7 years total. I’m a project lead on my team and I have to juggle multiple projects and set direction for several juniors.

I’m leading a project in an unfamiliar codebase. A combination of the following gives me constant anxiety 24/7.

- tight deadlines
- unfamiliar codebase
- ambiguous requirements and ownership
- struggling to get alignment on direction despite attempts to wrangle stakeholders

I go to therapy every two weeks for work anxiety but I am struggling to break away from it. I think my root problem is that I place too much of my self worth on work so when things are not clear cut and are ambiguous, my whole waking being is filled with anxiety.

What mindset or life changes do you guys have to help me get some control over my anxiety?